Everybody fears failing, but failing is inevitable. It is how you prepare and respond to failure that makes all the difference. You are not defined by your failures. In order to help you achieve your goals there is a certain mentality that you need to have. Here are 5 habits that will guarantee your failure — and what you can do to prevent them.
1) Failing To Plan
If you want to succeed, then it helps first to create a roadmap of where you would like to go. When creating a plan, it does not have to be perfect. But you should always think through whatever you want to achieve and have an idea of what you need to accomplish each day, week, or month in order to get there. If you make vague plans then you will be more prone to procrastinate. Your plans should be specific and measureable. Having this complete picture will prepare you to execute on your ideas.
2) The Fear To Try
As Michael Jordan once said, “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” If you want to go anywhere in life, then you need to be willing to take that first step. Overcoming the fear of failing is the first step towards success. But if you understand that failure is inevitable, and it is how you respond to failure that is truly what defines you, then you will be in a much better position to achieve great things. There is always an opportunity to try; it is never too late to give something a shot.
3) Giving Up Too Soon
One of the most important secrets of success is learning to conquer your doubts. Once you begin working towards your goal, doubts will eventually begin to seep in. Most people will listen to these doubts and give up on their passion too soon. Every successful person that you speak too will have a perseverance story to share.
If you do not believe in what you are doing, then you will eventually give up on it at some point. When you have no reason to believe that it is possible to achieve your dreams or goals, all the effort you are putting into it will be wasted. If you do not see a successful outcome, you will be less willing to push yourself to get there. Your progress, and success, depends on your decision to have a positive attitude about what you are doing. If you believe in what you are doing then you will be willing to fight to overcome your failures and rise above them.
5) Making Excuses
There is always a reason why something can’t be done. When the disbelief sets in, many people will begin to make excuses. People constantly complain about why they couldn’t, shouldn’t, didn’t, or simply wouldn’t do something. The problem is that when you make excuses, you are basically saying that you are not in control. However, you are the only person who is fully in control of your actions and decisions in the world. Making excuses robs yourself of your personal power. People tend to make excuses because they fear the unknown or because they are afraid of change, rejection or embarrassment. Excuses are simply distractions that prevent you from moving outside your comfort zone. They reduce your confidence and self-belief.